Many people
say you can’t be “just friends” with someone you still Love after a
breakup. But that is simply not true. It all depends on the kind of
relationship you had with that person.
Naturally,
if there was abuse involved, then that is a different story, and some
people just make better friends than lovers. But forgiveness is always
the key after a breakup; forgiving yourself and the other party.
Time heals,
and if you say you actually Loved that person, then that Love will
still be there, and you will always care. Love should never turn to hate
just because you broke up with someone. There is no hate in Love, and
if you feel hatred for that person, maybe you were never in Love with
them in the first place. It’s just your ego was hurt.
There are a
lot of emotions after a breakup that we have to work through, but once
we take the time to heal, that person we say we Loved, we will always
care about. We should want nothing but the best for them. That’s a part
of real Love. I was fortunate enough to remain friends with people who
played a significant role in my life.
I knew that
harboring resentment and hate for someone would only destroy me. Once I
moved on and forgave myself and them, I was able to be a friend if they
ever wanted to talk or needed anything.
To Love
again, you need to be a Loving person. Your attributes should never
change just because your relationship went sour. Only change the
negative things about yourself that may cause problems later on. But
yes, you can still be friends with people you once Loved. It may be
rare, but it is possible.
